Why sometimes you need to be selfish

We were told from childhood that being an egoist is bad - before you commit any act, you must first think about others and only then about yourself. But time passes, and with age, understanding comes - it is by no means always necessary to push your own needs into the background. Why? Let's get it together.

Remember, where does each flight on an airplane begin? Apart from the long road to the airport and the long lines near the check-in counter, it starts with safety rules. In particular, with a short briefing on how to use oxygen masks.

"In case of depressurization of the passenger compartment, put on the mask first on yourself and only then help others do it." You must admit that at a height of ten thousand meters the logic of this phrase does not raise questions, but, alas, on earth we often reject common sense and when it comes to our own health, success and prosperity, we forget about ourselves.

It is absurd to think that by satisfying other people's needs and ignoring yours, you are doing better for someone. Not. Only worse, and to everyone.

As the old saying goes, you cannot get drunk from an empty cup. And a person who does nothing for himself is just such a cup.

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We found five ways that will help you enrich your own life experience and gain strength to help others. They are in front of you.

At least once in a week you should have at least one hour dedicated to what gives you pleasure. It can be anything. You might want to go to the cinema in the morning or flip through a glossy magazine thoughtlessly while lying on the couch. Perhaps you decide to take coffee and go for a walk in the park. Or think of a friend whom you have not seen for a thousand years and want to invite him to dinner.

In general, the impossible is possible. The main thing is not to forget to check that the phone has been switched to airplane mode and that daily affairs will not disturb you for at least 60 minutes.

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How often, seeing a thing that like you pass by because it is too expensive? (No, you, of course, can afford such a purchase, but feeling guilty for unjustified squandering will not allow you to fully enjoy shopping). At the same time, you never skimp on gifts to friends and carefully examine the shelves of shops to find the best? If you answered both questions in the affirmative, then it's time to think about the reason for such one-sided stinginess.

Alas, most often it lies in fear. In fear of going broke - any purchase reduces your “stabilization fund” - and in fear of being not good enough to have a good thing. You didn’t deserve it .However, both of these fears are irrational. You just need to learn how to spend money on yourself.

Yes, forcibly, if necessary. Firstly, it will help you earn more (don’t believe me? Then read the story of Dmitry Metsayev), and secondly, treat yourself kinder and with more love. You a priori deserve everything you like.

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Now take a piece of paper and write down everything that you have ever dreamed of, but never dared to try (you either did not have the strength, then the time).

Pilates at the Reformer? Hour of "flight" on a trampoline? Skydiving? Botanical watercolor workshop? Or maybe you wanted to sign up for cooking classes? Never mind. This moment has come. The moment you can no longer put off. Start moving immediately! Start looking for opportunities right now and your searches will surely be rewarded. And very soon.

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If you have reached significant If you are successful in reflecting on your own shortcomings, it is not surprising that your needs have ceased to be perceived by you at least somehow worthy of attention and time. And that's bad. Self-criticism is undoubtedly a useful quality when it does not prevail over the rest, and all the more so does not overshadow common sense. And if you have no problems with a negative assessment of your own actions, then you will have to work hard on the positive.

Each time, passing by the mirror, stop, look at your reflection and say something good. Good about yourself.

  • I am doing everything right.
  • Everything will definitely be fine. I'm definitely lucky.

  • I am doing an excellent job.
  • I am a very strong and confident person. I will succeed.

Try repeating these phrases for a month, and the changes will not take long.

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Could you spend a little more money than usual and buy yourself a small package of blueberries? Could you move the work meeting to have time to walk in the park? Could you go to bed early to read a little in bed before going to bed?

Putting other people's priorities above your own, you do not get better. And you, of course, do not become kinder or more selfless. On the contrary, by such behavior you indirectly harm those around you, sometimes without even realizing it. Judge for yourself: when you are exhausted and exhausted, can you help your neighbor to show proper participation in his problem and do everything to correct the situation? Unfortunately no. It takes strength, but you don’t have it.

The wisest thing you can do is to be a happy person, living in harmony with yourself and your own needs. And here, healthy egoism is indispensable.

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