Running with a broken heart. My first New York half marathon.
Perhaps love really rules the world, but a broken heart pushes us to thoughtless actions. And I agree with that. When Britney Spears sang Womanizer and Beyoncé recorded Run the World [Girls], it made a splash among hundreds of thousands of broken-hearted girls.
Yes, dear, we all come across this.
Ross and I were an ideal couple until our relationship came to an end. We met for two years and broke up in March 2010 that weekend when I was supposed to run the half marathon in New York. After that, I was so depressed that I thought my heart would be petrified. We have known each other for about ten years and are still friends, there is definitely some kind of connection between us.
But then the pain was unbearable, and I felt how longing eats me from the inside.
Then I ran about thirty-five kilometers a week, most often alone and wherever my eyes look. We began to prepare for the half marathon with Ross, he wanted to support me - but we parted. In addition to Ross, I had other like-minded people whom I met when I began to run through the streets of Manhattan, setting myself the goal of running 21 km. My unhappy love inflamed me so much that I felt literally engulfed in flames.
And I did it. When I returned home with a medal, I immediately signed up for the next marathon (42.2 km). It takes place in New York in November under the auspices of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society.
The next six months of training changed me and helped to forget Ross.
I not only realized that I was able to overcome long distances, but also became a welcome guest among the runners who helped me heal mental wounds. Thanks to the New York City BridgeRunners team, where I found my home with them, and the Jackrabbit NYC Marathon Training Program led by Jonathan Kane, I became myself again.
Remember how in the movie "Waiting for an Exhalation", the heroine of Angela Bassett again got in shape after a divorce, and her eyes lit up with happiness? Running has become what brings me back to life, but you don’t have to worry about losing in order to change. I hope you do not have to face this. However, if something like this has already happened to you, be aware that sweat is healing.
Now back to the main question of this book: why are you running? When you can determine the cause, the method will be found by itself. Why are you lacing running shoes? Want to get faster? Survive unhappy love? Set a personal record? Run your first kilometer? The reasons may change over time, but if you clearly name them, it will be more difficult for you to turn off the intended course. I signed up for my first marathon to survive the breakup. My “why” was a broken heart. It made me get up at 6 in the morning and run for as long as I could to "run into that sadness.
The reasons can and should change as running gradually becomes an integral part of your life, as you move forward and feel the world through the prism of movement. You can choose any reason: longevity, waist size, community, sex appeal, vanity, pride, love, curiosity. It doesn’t matter, because this is what moves you personally. Enjoy it. Immerse yourself in it completely.
And when you think HOW to do this, always remember WHY you do it.
How I returned my fuse: ten tips.
Preparing for my first marathon after breaking up, overcoming mile after mile, I recovered from my spiritual wounds. And just as corny as in the book “Eat, Pray, Love,” crossing the finish line in Central Park, I was already a different, better version of myself. After you run through your favorite city, sending kisses to your friends and relatives at the finish line, and a medal flaunts around your neck, you feel like a real warrior.
I always remember this moment when doubts creep in me. Running is a way of life, a marathon is a journey: each race reveals new facets in you. It all starts with the first step.
1. Do not think that the alternating program for running and walking is some kind of unnecessary crap.
Do everything that makes you get out of the couch, even if sometimes you make mistakes. Be honest with yourself about your health and level of training. Be honest with yourself. This is especially important for former athletes and those who decide to resume training after a long break. Gradually, you will return to your previous form, start small.
2. Do not worry if you encounter some discomfort. You will have to get used to the discomfort and slight pain, but you should not feel sharp and sharp pain. If you are not sure that something really hurts you, try to go one or two minutes to the next step and see if the pain disappears. If something still bothers you, stop and call a specialist for help.
3. You may be out of breath, but not out of breath. If you feel that you are not enough air even to speak, slow down. Inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth.
Pain and cramping in the side is a common thing for novice runners, as the muscles are not yet used to the load. Gradually this will pass. If you experience discomfort, start breathing deeply, filling the diaphragm with air. Raise your arms, relax your shoulders, bend forward slightly and stretch.
When choosing jogging routes, look for well-lit tracks with even coverage. Old-fashioned paved walkways or dark paths are not the best place to run.
6. If you are going to run less than half an hour, you do not need to take anything extra with you. Take water if it is vital for you, but before running you should not have a tight lunch or hang a bunch of equipment on yourself.
Simplify. You, sneakers and sportswear are all you need.
7. You will have bad days. Sometimes you just can’t cheer yourself up and go outside.
Try again tomorrow. It is important that you do not give up trying to achieve your goal. Nevertheless, choose a convenient time for yourself and stick to it. Habit formation takes a long time.
Do not try to look cool. You are just starting, and no one expects you to immediately prove yourself as a professional athlete. Focus on your feelings.
9. Make the choice in favor of "budget" technologies.
Maybe one day you will buy the most sophisticated GPS-watch with all the sensors. A model with impressive features. But now, at the very beginning, they are not needed.
10. Have a physical examination.
Make sure you can run. To do this, evaluate the health indicators of the body. When you start measuring your running time and distance, it’s good to know your blood pressure, heart rate at rest, cholesterol level and general fitness level.