“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun. ”

Anastasia Abroskina is only 28, however, she has already been working as a model for 8 years, 6 titles of the champion of Russia in equestrian sports, several social projects and a happy family. And all this despite the diagnosis - cerebral palsy. Read her story - she's about how to stay strong under any circumstances.

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun.</p><p> ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

- At school I was subjected to very strong bullying. Despite the fact that I studied at a specialized school, I became an object of fun for classmates. The fact is that some parents bought certificates so that their children could study at this school, others suffered from diseases of the heart, liver, and kidneys — their disability was visually invisible, and my disability was striking.

My peers always tried to hurt me: they said a lot of offensive, threw themselves at something, spat. I always had to defend a place in the sun. It made me strong. The teachers behaved exponentially: they were not prepared to work with special children, they did not carry out any inclusive work, they did not try to explain that we were different, that we had other opportunities and needs, they did not try to smooth out the aggression towards me. I have repeatedly asked teachers for help.

I’m not a scammer, I never gave classmates with their pranks, I never complained and didn’t “knock”, I just fought and urged to somehow fix the existing problem, counting on the help of the elder. In response, I received phrases like: "I have already made a comment." A comment here will not help, but, apparently, the pedagogical qualification was limited to this. My class teacher always said: "Before graduation, you all make peace." Partly the way it happened.

In the graduation class, everyone switched to exams, and I studied well, and all my offenders had to turn to me - when they needed something, they came running and asked for forgiveness.

Now in the country they are implementing educational reform, which is disbanding specialized schools, children with disabilities will be educated in ordinary educational institutions. It scares me a lot. I’m not sure that all teachers are ready to provide the necessary protection to special children. I do not want them to face the same problems as me.

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun. ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

Horses are my passion from an early age.

As a child, I didn’t have dolls - there were only horses: a horse-mom, a horse-dad, a foal, a plush Mr. Pony. When I saw real animals, it was impossible to get me out of a state of euphoria and delight. Our family had a tradition - on Sundays we went to Sokolniki Park, I rode a pony there. The woman who was involved in these horseback riding, seeing my enthusiasm, gave dad the contacts of an organization specializing in hippotherapy.

We started going there. I immediately mounted a big horse. Once my parents started talking with a trainer, and my horse and I, while we were left alone, started a walk and rode off. They then tried to catch us for a long time. The trainer was very surprised that the animal obeyed such a little girl.

I was then about seven years old. In the future, my therapy grew into a full-fledged equestrian sport. In some competitions, a not very adequate young man climbed into the stands. He knew that horses were disabled. He waited when the animal came as close to him as possible, and exploded a firecracker.

The horse was frightened and threw off the rider. One boy even broke a shoulder blade. None of those present understood what was happening. When I came to a distance, the same thing happened. However, my horse did not want to hurt me so much that it all twisted and even slowed down so that I would fall accurately.

Then she ran a circle and was the first to run up to me, lying on the ground. When people arrived to help me, the horse did not leave me until the last.

Hippotherapy works as follows: first, a child who is sitting in a stroller is simply put on a horse. Oscillatory movement occurs on the horse in three planes at once: from top to bottom, from right to left, back and forth. Accordingly, in order not to beat the horse with his chin, he has to push off and hold on tight, as a result, the muscles of the body develop.

Then the instructor sits down on the horse and begins to push the child off the horse, holding him, of course, at that moment. This is how the instinct of self-preservation develops. Later, the child begins to grab the horse with his feet and eventually verticalizes .

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun.</p><p> ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

Often I hear reproaches that the alleged disability has become fashionable, that we have become too many. Recently I read an article "Love, Nits, Disabled", in which the author expresses indignation that people with disabilities have now filled almost all areas of activity: they sing, dance, draw, appear on the covers of magazines. So, there were no more disabled people, they just went outside.

We live in the XXI century, in the period of technological development. Now there are all conditions for a normal human existence: strollers have become more mobile, prostheses - more technological. Disabled people ceased to be afraid and began to lead an active lifestyle. I am incredibly glad, and partly proud of having become part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, purposeful, we fight for our place in the sun, we just love to live.

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun. ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

Disabled people are always paid attention to.

But in our country, people with cerebral palsy are often not perceived as individuals.

I came across a misperception of disability in my childhood. I had good relations with my parents: they allowed me to engage in equestrian sports, took me to rehabilitation procedures, but still they perceived me as a sick child and thought that I should be with them all my life. I still don’t understand how to raise a hand against a child who is already sick. Many people with disabilities are dependent on their relatives, and this addiction develops impunity in parents.

They think that they can afford everything, because the child will not go anywhere from them. I was very lucky to meet my future husband. He actually pulled me out of this vicious circle. It was important for me to see his family - a family in which there was no violence. My parents even now refuse to admit their mistakes, so our relationship has not yet improved.

I will not tire of thanking technological progress. Now most people get to know each other online. My husband and I corresponded a lot at the very beginning of our relationship. For disabled people, social networks are an opportunity to open up. Acquaintance on the street is not our format a bit, but through correspondence, the interlocutor will be able to discern our inner world, get to know us.

It was this period of communication that helped my husband understand who I am.

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun. ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

I failed the session at the medical university and at the same time broke up with my previous young man. It was during that difficult period that I made the iron decision to go into the model. I wanted to realize a dream. I didn't care who said anything. I wanted to try.

She wanted people to see who I really am. Disability is not what defines me. I wanted to be not just a girl with cerebral palsy, but a full member of society.

I remember my first casting. It was a shoot for some cosmetic product, they were looking for a red-haired girl with just my parameters.

While models stand in line for casting, they discuss each other. Everyone - beautifully crazy - managed to find flaws in the neighbors. At that casting, they grinded me the most. Torn to pieces. But I suffered and stood the line.

When I entered the room where the "commission" was sitting, the first question I was asked was: "Why did you come?" They called me crazy and again lamented that the world was heading in the wrong direction. But in fact, they had no reason to refuse me. My disability is not visible in the photographs. Moreover, I am ideal for a growth model, I have long arms, long legs, even the standard model foot size is 37. This biased criticism spurred me on to move on, to try again.

The first casting I went through was with L'Oreal - shooting hair dye. My hair then shimmered with all kinds of shades - from red to yellow. I was a real fire in their collection. Six months passed, and I already forgot about this experience, but once, when my husband and I were driving along the MKAD, or rather, as usual, we were in a traffic jam, my husband looked up and exclaimed: "Nastya, it's you!" It was incredibly nice to see myself. I experienced some incredible emotions.

I felt that my beauty was discerned, I was appreciated, despite my disability.

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun. ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

There is an opinion that a modern woman can do everything: both at home, support and work. When my first daughter grew up, I went to work. We had to hire a nanny to be able to get away on business. There was simply no free time. We fled somewhere, all life flew by.

Now, having given birth to a second child, a son, I realized: the idea that a woman is omnipotent is not entirely true. You can consciously choose a house and not be complex that you could not combine family and career. Now I want to be a mother, enjoy family life. Moreover, we just moved into a new apartment, I want to equip everything, make it cozy.

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities.</p><p> We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun. ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

Now I want to work closely on social projects. "Inspired by you" is a project that should stimulate people and create the right opinion about people with cerebral palsy.

It is very important for me to set an example for boys and girls with disabilities. I want everyone to understand: a person who is useful to society can grow out of a child with a disability. I collaborate with the project

Bezgraniz Couture

, which aims to create special clothing for people with different disabilities.

“I am part of a new generation of people with disabilities. We are young, beautiful, sexy, and we are fighting for our place in the sun.</p><p> ”

Photo: from the personal archive of Anastasia

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