Why are we late? What prevents you from arriving on time? What mechanisms will increase punctuality and how to learn how to manage your time, will tell the expert in time management, the creator of the academy "Time is in order" and the author of the
course "I can do everything"
Anna of All Saints
You do not want to go where you are going. Therefore, unconsciously delay the meeting by any possible means, the result is that you are late. The reasons may be different: it may be an uncomfortable company for you, embarrassment, a feeling that your goals are not being realized at an unloved job.
You are against the system.
From childhood we are forced to follow the schedule: in kindergarten, school and university. Perhaps when a person becomes an adult, he tries to destroy this framework and thereby show that he has grown and wants to live by his own rules. It is worth observing yourself: you are probably still in your heart a teenager who is so trying to protest.
It excites you. Haste throws adrenaline into the blood, and he invigorates many.
This kind of delay is a kind of drug, people feel a pleasant shake.
You feel important and necessary. Such a reason for being late is inherent to people who are unsure of themselves or to those who feel special, but he does not succeed in manifesting it externally.
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If you analyze your behavior, it will become clear what makes you late and what you need to work on.
The first key to solving a problem is awareness, it provides 80% success.
Once the problem is recognized, it can easily be dealt with. If you find yourself have internal problems and cannot figure it out on your own, then you should resort to therapy. A specialist will help to relieve insecurity or to extinguish internal rebellion.
When leading a course, I often encounter the fact that a person makes his schedule without taking into account the “connecting” time and force majeure.
Every hour a new business, meetings, negotiations, coordination. A person does not take into account that he might get stuck in traffic, stand in line for a ticket on the subway for a long time, or wait for a bus for twenty minutes instead of ten. The whole schedule is like from a printing glider, where opposite the time you need to specify a new task (classic printed gliders are a long-outdated, completely inoperative tool).
Recall your stable lateness. Let's say 15 minutes.
Add these 15 minutes between cases, this is kind of your margin of error. Let you have time to do less, but better and without annoying lateness.
Starting to gather, you are constantly distracted by phone, mail, a dog or a long selection of clothes? So you do not have a planned chain of actions. In such a situation, it is necessary to prescribe the entire sequence of steps, for example, during the collection for work: what you do from waking up to calling the elevator. Collect in advance suitable sets of clothes and take them to your phone - this will save a lot of time when collecting for a job or a date.
You can also prepare dinner in advance, rather than making it in a hurry in the morning. There is a preparation stage in any action, and with the help of this stage you can optimize your life and minimize delays.
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For some people, the perception of time is very subjective and lags far behind the real one. You can conduct an interesting experiment: for example, you give yourself the task of entering the kitchen after 15 minutes and starting to brew coffee.
Put a stopwatch and leave the phone in the kitchen. You focus only on your internal clock. Having decided that 15 minutes have expired, go to the kitchen and check how much time actually passed.
If you find that the difference between subjective and real time is large and you perceive ten minutes as twenty, try to change this, for example, using the same stopwatch and timer. After a week and a half, it will be easier for you to navigate in time and you will start to be less late.
There is a category of people on whom they themselves or the surroundings stigmatized: a lazy person, a kopush, a late. They vehemently argue that on time - this is not about them, they can not help themselves. But this is only a very convenient excuse. A label that canned a person in a state of "eternal late" or "I am such, I can not come on time." An approach that pulls down and gives the right not to develop, not to try new techniques.
You can remove all these templates that you yourself have hung on yourself. You just need to analyze your regime and take up work on yourself.